Sunday, December 28, 2008

THE TRUTH IN ALL DESIRES-PROLOGUE

I’ve been thinking a lot about those lines that supposedly reflect the realism in life. You know, phrases like ‘life’s not a bed of roses’ and others of the same sort. Firstly, I’m against the very idea of picturing life as something stationary. Come on, life cannot be a bed of anything. I’m more into picturing life as something more moving, portable and mobile.
Life’s a ride, a ride where you pass through different places, which apparently relate to the incidents of life. So in my opinion, we could use a phrase which goes something like ‘life’s a ride full of bumps and uniformity’. It’s a typical journey where you have no choice but to experience the monotony at times and the excitement at other times, the rightfulness at times and the injustice at other times, the bliss at times and the misery at others. But this is just my perspective at looking at what life may be. I have no desire whatsoever in forcing others to accept this depiction of life.

What I want to do now is not sit and ponder about what life is because frankly, I believe it is way beyond my philosophical intellect. I can deliberate about it for years and keep moving in circles-after all, life’s a full circle isn’t it? What I’m trying to do now is contemplate on reasons, or rather one particular reason that I find most important in persuading you forward with life. Different people may have different reasons, different catalysts. As my friend so rightly put-‘it’s all in the priorities’. Yes it is. Priority is that sole word or rather, the sole idea that helps you move ahead with life. Every person is required to prioritize his/her life because this inadvertently provides direction to life. Prioritizing is, in a way, reasoning out your options and cutting down on them and selecting a few apt ones and finally setting them as your goals. And then you work towards fulfilling your goals, rather, those limitations you set for yourself, justifying them as priorities.

Let’s look at something slightly above priorities. I’m talking about ambition. Isn’t ambition the sole idea that helps a person truly persuade himself to live on? What priority can a man without ambition possess? That’s something like knowing the path that leads you forward but having absolutely no idea as to where it’ll lead you-A blind journey. That is certainly not what we want, right? So my first break-ambition is much more important than priority because it is that what leads you. In fact it is the only thing that can show you the path. To take it or leave it, is the priority in question.

So, now in my scale I’ve brought ambition above priority. Limitation was the word I’d used to term the entire process of prioritizing your options. Allow me to justify myself. Depending on one’s personal capacity, his/her ambitions will vary in scale. It will certainly vary in magnanimity. When a person gives his ambition a free hand, I’m very sure his life’s going to take an elevated turn, in the positive direction. He’s going to be able to tread new paths. When he tries to sort out his priorities, what he actually is doing is to limit the wideness in his ambitions, the extent of his ambitions. Why does one want to do that? What harm does ambition bring upon you? Why set restrictions to something which does nothing but urge you to grab further, to advance yourself to greater heights? Once you set yourself priorities, what happens is you think you’re focused, you think you’re decided on what to do in life. But what actually happens is you tread a fixed set of paths within your own personal capacity. You may feel you are discovering new horizons, but then that’s just one of the many illusions that life’s going to show you. In short, you’ve caged yourself. And in the end, what happens to a caged animal? He’s hit by frustration, desperation, a sense of loss etc. When you set no priority, when you leave it all to the free wandering hand of ambition; it is then that you are truly going to discover yourself. Then, you will know no such thing as personal capacity. You will be able to reach out to heights which would’ve earlier instilled fear in your heart. And you know what the best part is - you’ll always find greater things to live for.
The moment you accomplish something, or even before it, there would something else that would’ve been vying for your attention, vying for your fulfillment. It is this continuous process of desiring something, accomplishing a few, letting a few go by and failing in a few that helps make life more eventful and thrilling.

So now in my scale I’ve completely eliminated priority. I feel there is no need for it at all as all it does is give one a false sense of focus and sets a load of restrictions to your aspirations.

I’ve spoken so much about ambition, but I’m yet to use the word ‘dream’. What difference is there between a dream and an ambition? In my scale, I fail to find any difference between them at all. If one notices any difference, it is nothing but a phony charade that is set up by his own thoughts. A friend of mine once put it this way – ‘you can be ambitious up to a certain level, and beyond that it is all a dream….’ Allow me to explain his stance. He says there’s nothing wrong in fuelling your ambitions but then there’s a stage beyond which you need to classify them into dreams. My question is simple – Why do you need to make that classification? Isn’t it a restriction that you’re setting for yourself, willing yourself to believe that beyond that particular stage everything else you wish for is just a dream which may or may not be fulfilled? You yourself are labeling it with the impossible tag. Come on; can there be anything more pessimistic than this? I honestly brand this mode of thought as negative and degrading to your own spirit of perseverance. It reflects nothing but an unsure self, a self that believes you don’t have the stuff to even call it your ambition. Who says all your ambitions have to be fulfilled? There is no hard and fast rule of that sort.
People who differ from this concept of thought have the label of practicality to argue with, and I certainly believe that they are justified in thinking so. After all, who am I to argue if they themselves believe they can’t do something?

Trust me when I say practicality is only a façade behind which people try to hide. Do not get the idea that I’m being insensible when I say this. But all that I’m asking is why you have to differentiate something off as dream and ambition, with the criterion being surety in accomplishment. What is wrong in having an ambition that you may not be able to accomplish? What is wrong in aspiring for something that may seem to be practically difficult? Are all dreams left unaccomplished?

All you ever wish for, all you aspire to be, to do – it can all be termed as your ambition. There need not be any classification between them as dreams, aspirations, desires and goals and so on. It’s all one and the same. For example, I can always desire to be the president of my country. Sensibly thinking I should be able to realize that it has a very high chance of impracticality. But that does not mean I need to totally term it as a simple dream and nothing else. I can always give it a shot and atleast then resign to the fact that I did try for it. It would give a whole lot more of contentment then.
If you do feel that there is something that you desire and it’s got a practicality issue, why strike it off from your list of ambitions? Why not leave it there and nurture it? Why not just keep giving it shots so that it satisfies your thirst for that desire? But the sole requirement for this is the absence of a pessimistic approach.

So now in my scale, I’ve removed all classifications and have termed everything-goals, desires, aspirations, dreams- into one thing-AMBITION. Everything and anything that you desire can be brought under this. Some of it you may accomplish, some of it you may not. But then you can always have the pleasure of having it in your mind, having it there to fuel your fight in life, to push you further, to know no limits, to know that there’s nothing that can stop you but you yourself….
And thus ambition becomes the truth in all desires….

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

the best part of the blog comes frm the fact that this guy is totally exhausted of the burden by the kerala university syllabi...and went nuts...loved the way u interpreted things..well in ma views too there is no distinction between dream and ambition...

rahul sanal said...

the way i c it, all the 3 words PRORITY, AMBITION & DREAM have very distinct meanings..

aneesh, i want u to visualize a huge pile of bricks, each one unique..(they r ur dreams).. now i'm going to build a wall(ur life), the best way to build a very stable wall(focus) is to use the same brick for the whole construction(basement already undu, athinu karinkallu upayogikanam ennu parayallu), so now, i prioritize the bricks based on various facts like cost, strength, blah, blah, blah,.. and finally select one brick (ambition)..

the bottom line is that ur life becomes focused wen u prioritize ur dreams and come up with one ambition..

rahul sanal said...

u might still argue that if one puts all his focus in one ambition and in case it doesn't turn out the way he planned it, he might just loose all hope in life and that he'll have nothing to focus on.. If he did have many dreams in the first place, he would still have many things to focus on( the kind of optimism i think u have, but the optimist in me tells me that the failure case never happens)..

And then i'll say that if a person has only one ambition, he'll put in his 100% into it and that a person might not put in his 100% into any of his ambitions thinking that he's still got his options open.. and u'll counter it by saying that i shouldn't undermine the effort put in by a person having many dreams..

this might go on forever..

the only conclusion is that, both u and me r right in our arguments and it can never be generalized simply bcoz the human mind is not a computer that can be run by a single windows xp version.. v all don't work in the same way..

asquare said...

Rahul, you are very right in saying that the words ambition,dreams and priority have distinct meanings...i dont remember saying they have the same:)they're different...i'm only questioning the need to classify them.i do not want a classification because i believe it leads to restriction...and you said your life will become focussed with a single ambition..that is what i described as a false sense of surety.over there you're not actually focussed.you think you are.but actually you are just restricted to new ideas...atleast that's my interpretation....i'm in no way arguing mine is right.i'm only voicing my idea.:)

asquare said...

and rahul,i shall never argue that he'll lose heart if his one ambition will not work out.nope.coz the optimist in me will not allow me to think about that failure possibility:)and why do you find it so hard to focus on more than one ambition at once?is it too much a task for you?why is it that you can give 100% to one ambition but not that much if there's more than one?i've interpreted the entire post on the basis that any person who understands the true emotion in 'desire' shall be able to do so....for more i guess u'll have to wait for THE TRUTH IN ALL DESIRES-II ....same space,comin soon...:)

rahul sanal said...

i'm kind of getting the idea that v both r arguing on the same side of the coin.. the way i define my ambition is in a very vague way which includes a lot of things(for eg: i wanna be an ICON). In ur BOOK of ambitions, do u define each one very specifically?..( as in i wanna start my own company, be a business magnet,...)

asquare said...

that's the whole point-i do not define them specifically.tht's wat this is all about....i do not see them as different(except contextually).i dont think we're arguing on the same side of the coin.i think ur unable 2 actually tell wat u want to, or else u've gotten somethin of a wrong idea from the post.all ambitions to me are emotionally equal.n since i'm not a pessimist,i nurture all of them at once...i dont classify them in2 anything.that's the whole point.the only point.i honestly dont knw wher u got the idea that i define each ambition specifically.i was actually thinking along lines opposite to that.i fail to understand wat ur argument or ur examples have to do wid this at all:)n well if u r frustrated about not becoming an icon,well maybe its coz somewhere in ur mind,u think its too much for u?i dont knw...think about it...the mind's very truthful to the owner...atleast mine is;)

rahul sanal said...

blahhhhhhhh!!!!! so wat r ur ambitions anyway?..

Unknown said...

As I have said before, I really like the way you put your thoughts together. Clean and crisp.

What I don’t get is how you can compare priority and ambition. On what basis do you prioritize ambition above priority? Both are different entities… like apples and oranges. I think prioritizing is a process. Isn’t it? It’s what you decide based on necessity and the situation. Ambitions are fueled by your dreams. Everybody wants everything in life. Don’t we? But we can’t have everything; so we decide what is really important to us and that becomes our ambition. There itself we are prioritizing things. While you say that by prioritizing our ambitions we are caging ourselves, I can say that having found our ambitions, we have limited ourselves from endless other opportunities. So you have already caged yourself. I really wish could put whatever I just said in better words. I haven’t been able to put my point across satisfactorily. :-)
As to your other point, ambitions and aspirations are born out of dreams and desires. So they can all be called by a generic term.

Do keep on posting. It’s always a pleasure to read something intellectually stimulating. Sorry it took me so long to respond. Exams were going on.

blah said...

AMBITION & DREAM - names of 2 bike models isnt it... kidding yaar.... nice read... no giving much of my opinion coz.. it isnt my forte....

waiting for ur next blog....

Krishnaprasad said...

The real A-square touch...
Something i can't agree with is ur priority of placing ambition above priorities..i dont think its from ambition u can sort out the priorities-major or minor,besides ambition is actually one of ur priorities.
Ambition is nothing but a feeling that compells u to achieve something-physical or emotional...To be more precise, i'd say ambition is a highest order reflection of some1's desire for something..
Its all about a man's requirements to live his life.Oxygen,food n shelter are the basic necessities or priorities of a human being.Only after those 3,other priorities come.And one of those is the desire for something.Y do v desire for something-wen v aren't satisfied with wat v hav.And wen v come to know that,that something u desired can make a "better u",then the desire give way to ambition.
Consider a street dweller who lives on alms.He has only priorities to be fullfilled.I'm not saying he's not ambitious, but a better word is a dreamer.There u'll get the diff bwn dream and ambition.Its his limitations that creates that gap bwn ambitions nd dreams.
Now if u say,tats only a single case, i can generalise.Me n u are blessed with our basic priorities.So v hav a lot of time to desire for something, to be ambitious or to dream.But our ambitions may get constrained, while our dreams wont.
There lies the power of attitude-optimism and pessimism.Hope is actual driving force that leads u through the path of life, and not the ambition.
So in our ways of fulfilling our priorities, we come across the desires, sort out from it the dreams n ambitions,tat too within our limitations,work hard to achieve our goal, with the real catalyst-HOPE.

Prasita Sabari said...

well....wht u hve written seems logical..but...wht i feel is...ambition and dream..there is distinction between them...
in some cases like..becoming president of USA ..yeah u dream of it...and u can also say its ur ambition...but may i ask u....about LOVE...wht answer u give for tht....
u dream of true love...u may love truly...without jeolous,anger,possessiveness,hatred...beyond all pleasures...but..could u tell tht ur ambition is to find true love...??....hw much u try hard cld u find true love..??....wht u can only do is...u can love truly..but cant do anythin to get it...wht u can only do is dream....dream..n ..dream.....u can say .am satisfied if i love truly..am fullfilled and all.....but...still when v r alone...we dream abt tht...am i right??

i need a reply for this....:-)...

Prasita Sabari said...

u dint give me an explanation....

asquare said...

ok this goes to mihika....i'm sorry for the l8 reply....but i'm sure i can satisfy ur query..or rather the strong question u hav put forward....relly good one imust say....please wait for the next post...i was caught up with certain things and so the break from the blog....ill put up a post based on ur query in a weeks time ok....thx for reading and commenting...
really appreciate it...
cheerio...!

Bimal said...

cool post buddy..! :)
Hope to grow up to be a Blogger like u ..! SOmeday..!! :)